Let’s talk selfies!
It’s something that we have been doing for years now. Taking pictures of ourselves! With the invention of Snapchat we are adding more weird and wonderful filters onto our faces (more on my thoughts on that later).
Despite this being something we have done for years, I am still seeing such negative talk around selfie talking. People posting things such as ‘taking another selfie‘ or ‘being a poser‘ or ‘I just couldn’t help but take a selfie, I felt so cute today‘. To me, this is such a shame! There’s been talk and arguments about how the selfie creates a more self-absorbed person. About how we are becoming narcissists, but I think that taking a selfie is reaching a level of acceptance that we never had before.
I love a good selfie! Not because I think I look hella cute, but because I think it’s important to embrace who we are. Taking pictures of yourself, in and of itself, is nothing.
Posting, sharing, praising and embracing the way you look – now that is something. Posting and sharing the naturalness that makes you-you – now that is something!
Opening the borders on what is considered ‘normal’ or acceptable in society by doing you – now that is something.
As a young black woman, growing up, I can name a handful of people I saw that looked like me in the media. I could name even fewer people I saw who rocked natural hair. Of course, the internet played a massive part of this, but moving into my twenties I began to see more people who looked like me. More people with my shape face, my nose, my body shape, my hair. The more I saw the more I surrounded myself with until every part of my social media is filled with voices, pictures and thoughts that represent a myriad of people.
To some, taking a selfie might be harder than you’ll ever imagine. For others, taking pictures is a way of connecting and reaching out to people like them. The more we fill the screens with unfiltered, unedited, unashamed pictures of us embracing the beauty we have, the stronger and more powerful we are making each other.
Of course, everyone likes a snapchat filter or two, but imagine the impact of a young girl seeing another who looks just like you rocking a selfie with a smile and a glint in her eyes.
That said, selfies are fun. They are a way of expressing our individuality! Why dampen that with ideas that it’s self-absorbed or narcissistic. Do you, and do it unapologetically. So, take a damn picture when you feel amazing! YES! Take a quick snap when you’ve finished that workout you put off for weeks! YES! Pout and pose when you feel beautiful! YES!
Here is a collection of unashamed selfies, share yours, embrace you.