Eating disorders are sadly very common in people of all ages, genders, races and identities. It is something that isn’t spoken about enough, something that isn’t addressed and something that is still glamorised.
It shouldn’t be.
I have my own story, but I got tired of telling it. Instead, I wanted to make a difference, so I am writing about what I have and am doing on my recovery journey. So that, no matter where you are, who you are, you understand that there is a way out.
What is this about?
I’ve gone through the darkness of an eating disorder and I’ve come to learn:
- Eating issues are a society-wide problem
- Eating issues happen with boys, girls, young, old, big, small.
- Eating issues cause major health issues.
- Eating issues are easily passed on.
I want to address this.
All the skills and tools I talk through, I have used; sometimes daily. They are things that need to be spread around society more and more. We see images of ‘perfect’ people living their insta-perfect lives. It’s not fair because it’s not real.
All these skills will help you get a better grasp on food, eating, and your body confidence. If you want to lose weight but find you’re trapped in the dieting trap, or you feel awful in your clothes but can’t get past the mental exercise block. These skills will help. These skills are for everyone.
What is an eating disorder?
According to the NHS an eating disorder is classed as:
I don’t know about you but that is one vague-ass breakdown of what an eating disorder can be. There are many different forms of eating disorders, that I can’t possibly begin to explain but look here if you want more information.
In short, an eating disorder is an obsession. An overthinking, emotion-driven controlling behaviour that impacts your everyday life. Let me repeat that, it impacts your every day life.
Do you get so angry at yourself for eating that slice of cake that you refuse to have dinner? Do you tell yourself you won’t leave the gym until you’ve done 2 hours exercise? Do you pretend to eat, just to throw it in the bin?
Do you feel a bit guilty because you’ve had a big slice of cake for a friends birthday after the chocolate at lunch? Do you find yourself wishing you could exercise more? Do you carry a snack around with you because you get really emotional if you’re hungry?
That’s not disordered.
Now, I’m not saying you can’t diet, or be health concious or watch what you eat. But eating disorders stem from those simple ideas so one thing you will have to realise is: you can’t do that and be in recovery.
What is eating disorder recovery?
Well, if you’ve got this far, you or someone you know has an eating disorder. You think that maybe it’s getting out of control, you started with a target weight and now you’ve hit it you’re not happier – in fact, you are sadder.
You’re worried about someone because they become more and more obsessed with food. I get it, I hear you, you’re in the right place.
Recovery put simply is choosing to break the destructive and obsessive behaviour.
It’s choosing to live a life of freedom. It’s possible, at whatever stage you are at. It’s do-able and it won’t be forever.
That said, you will have to relearn some skills and unlearn some things you thought was normal. But you can do it!
As I said before, I am going to post techniques and skills that helped me get through my hard time. But before you do anything, stop!!! Yeah, sorry, that was weird. I can’t fix an eating disorder.
Everything I write is from experience, not medical knowledge. Before you do anything else:
- Speak to someone – someone you trust and who loves you.
- Go to the GP/nurse – don’t change anything without medical help.
- Be honest and open.